I heard once that real love doesn’t ask what is in it for me; it just gives unconditionally. It just tries to take the weight out of somebody else’s pack, lessen his load, and if it gets reciprocated, that’s great, but that isn’t what you did it for.

Donald Miller, Through Painted Deserts (via awelltraveledwoman)

(Source: enteringintocreation, via awelltraveledwoman)

Attract what you expect,
Reflect what you desire,
Become what you respect,
Mirror what you admire.

Unknown (via earthen-empress)

(via beardsleyjones)

The 2014 Experiment: Day 2

Today is day 2 of being off Facebook and Instagram and it has been freeing for me.  I find myself being more motivated to do more things than before.  Already I feel like this experiment has motivated me to make more effort to invest in others in a more genuine way. It has made me crave to spend my time doing things that only feed my soul. (I know that sounds cliché and corny but it’s the truth)

This year I want to learn how to fully participate in life and live in every moment, especially since my son is growing up so fast! Since I have been a mom I have struggled with finding a way to be a good mom, wife and friend.  It seems like I’ve only been able to be good at one thing at a time.  My husband and I went on a date the other weekend and I realized that I have neglected him.  I admitted to him that I felt bad that I don’t make the time to put more effort into making him feel special and loved. I feel the same way with my friends. When we were younger, We had a group of close friends that felt more like family.  We had built this community where we shared lives with one another. We got together often and had fun doing what young people do in their 20s without kids and as many responsibilities as one has when you are in your late 20s and early 30s. Times have definitely changed.

What I want this year is to build this community again.  I need this. I have always imagined having a close group of friends where our kids would grow up and play with one another.  I want my son to experience this community. This is one of my goals this year!

awelltraveledwoman:

tarafirma:

i say 2014 is about movement. not just forward movement, but any kind of movement. front, back, sideways, and back to the front again it doesn’t really matter. because moving “forward” is about moving in general. sometimes you gotta go back before you can be sprung forward, like an arrow. just move guys. that’s what i’ll be doing. 

this. with you lady.

This is for an exciting year to come!

The 2014 Experiment

Tonight, on New Year’s Eve, instead of coming up with a New Year’s Resolution, I am going to do a little experiment of my own by getting rid of my Facebook and Instagram accounts and explore a life I once had before college when I didn’t have these accounts.

As I am about to begin this journey, I am curious about how my life might change. I am wondering about how much time I will get back to read, write or call a friend instead of checking my Facebook or Instagram apps 100 times a day.  I am wondering how this will affect the relationships I have with my friends on these sites.  Who will I still be in touch with this time next year? What relationships will be so much deeper because of this? Who will purposely invest the time to continue to get to know my family and I besides just keeping up with my statuses and pictures I post online? Will I end up wanting to get back on these sites next year? 

I will be keeping my blog so that I can document this experience and share it with whoever wants to know how it is going for me.  Plus, I love blogging! 

I am super excited about what 2014 will bring!  I wish everyone who reads this a Happy New Year!

Finding Balance

This year I have been on a quest to discover what balance looks like in my life now being a mom. I came across an article in Huffington Post and this is my favorite quote from the article. Sure needed to read this today!

"Maybe balance, like success, isn’t something we can obtain or achieve, but something that we feel within ourselves, in our soul, in the essence of our being. Maybe balance is about spending as much time as possible in those places and activities that bring out our best and truest self. And, when life’s circumstances take us away from those things, balance is about bringing our best and truest selves to whatever it is that we are doing…"

You can read the entire original post at www.christineorgan.com called A Lop-Sided Kind of Balance

Friday

My Friday nights look so different now that I’m a mom. Today I got home from work, put a pizza in the oven, went through the pile of unopened mail and tried to get a head start on getting my house cleaned before the boys came home.

This weekend is really busy for him because he has a show tonight and tomorrow night out of town, which leaves Q and I by ourselves mostly all weekend.

So tonight I decided that my goal was after I put Q down for bed that I would try to finish up some cleaning and laundry. Then after I am done, I will make time for myself before I go to bed.

I feel very happy right now because I was super productive tonight. I not only took care of Q by myself even with him refusing to take his evening nap but I finished the house cleaning I wanted to get done.

I saw a funny quote on Pinterest the other day and I find it so true right now in my life. It said:

"A man’s day off is his day off but a woman’s day off is time to catch up on the house work."

Once I leave work, I go home and do more work. Work really never ends for a mom once she gets off work.